Get Off The Hot Mess Express
|Thursday (200)||8:00 pm||9:00 pm|
Start Taking Risks and Living the Life of Your Dreams
Tagged as: Self Help
I’m here to remind you that we have huge personal power to direct, drive, and change our lives. Nothing is impossible. All that’s required is a shift in mindset and a commitment to action.
I’m here to support you in your goal of finding more love and joy in your day-to-day life. One of my jobs as a relationship coach is helping people remove any obstacles that are preventing them from finding and committing to lasting love. Love could be from a friend, a pet or a romantic partner, or it could be finding more love and patience with yourself as you go through a difficult transition. Whatever it is, I invite you to hold on to my belief that love exists and that it is possible to find the love you’re looking for until you get comfortable holding that as one of YOUR beliefs… and I promise you, you will get there, I totally believe in you.
I want to be a stand for you going after your dreams. You can’t succeed without your own permission, and nobody can get in your way unless you let them. I’m here to support you in getting out of your own way so you can be who you truly are, have what you really want, give what you are truly capable of, and achieve more than you ever thought possible.
This show will be full of practical and spiritual advice and action steps to help you progress along your personal growth journey.
As a listener, you will learn so much about yourself and other people. When you hear someone else’s journey, you’ll likely gain a better understanding of yourself, your spouse/partner, and even your best friend. But intellectual awareness of our issues/struggles/self-defeating patterns, etc. doesn’t integrate with our heart until we make a shift in behavior. On this show, we’ll be creating a safe place for being vulnerable and authentic, both of which are incredibly powerful. Most people believe that vulnerability is weakness. But really, vulnerability is courage. We must ask ourselves …. Are we willing to show up and be seen? Authenticity and vulnerability are about taking off the mask and just being real. It’s about self-acceptance and really loving who you are and not giving a damn what other people think of you. What is engrained in us is love. Love is our innate state of being, and we cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known. What many of us need to deprogram are our feelings of unworthiness, comparison envy, self-doubt, and self-sabotage. Oftentimes, we disempower ourselves by thinking we are victims of life instead of creators and designers of our reality and our future. Victims live in their default future – it’s the future that will take place from moment to moment when no further thought, intention, or commitment is brought to it. If you take where those folks are in this moment, you can extrapolate to where their lives will be five, ten, twenty years down the road.
I want this show to be the catalyst for you to start taking risks and living the life of your dreams instead of your default future. Instead of being a victim, I want you to adopt a growth mindset and become a seeker (what am I learning? How can I see this situation differently?). You’ll see that it is possible to re-write the future. It is possible to be an exception. It is possible to live an exponential life.
Don’t let your failures dictate your beliefs. Every great champion lost more times than they won, but they didn’t allow their mindset to be shaken nor take their focus off their vision. Instead of worrying about failure, think about the opportunities you miss when you don’t even try. Because it’s not who are ARE that holds you back. It’s who you THINK you’re not.
Remember, you are not what happened to you. You are what you CHOOSE to become. Never allow the struggles from your past hold you back from believing you can create a new future.
And by the way, I live and breathe the stuff I teach and offer you on this show. And when I fall down – because I’m human so I do — I talk openly about it on the show and in my blog!
Karen left her 14-plus year career as a successful attorney to pursue my dream of serving others as a transformational relationship and career coach. She’s committed to helping people find their purpose, achieve their dreams, and discover their place of insane passion and joy in their careers and relationships.
“The catalyst for doing what I love today – helping people lead richer, more fulfilling, and truly exceptional lives — was my suffering. As an attorney, I felt drained by my day-to-day existence, and I constantly found myself thinking “surely there’s more to life than this?” But I felt obligated to keep practicing law because I worked so hard to get there. And it was my identity: It’s all everyone knew me as, and it was all I ever knew myself as.
But I dreaded each day. My heart pulled me to follow the calling in my heart to be of service to others. I yearned to achieve success and fulfillment on my own terms, but I was afraid. Fear constantly reminded me of what could go wrong. Fear told me that I wasn’t smart or gifted enough to be anything other than a lawyer. The snarky voice of fear in my head often asked me “Who are you to be a coach?” and “Who are you to teach others?” Fear chastised me for wanting happiness, fulfillment, and success on my terms. Because I let fear direct my life, I remained stuck.”
“And then one day I felt like I couldn’t breathe anymore. At that point, I promised myself to dig in, figure out who I really was, what I really wanted, and how I was going to get it. So, I walked away from my old, comfortable, lucrative career and set out on a path into the unknown. It was one of the scariest – yet liberating – days of my life.”
“My career transition from attorney to coach has been amazing. But it also tested my marriage. Initially, my husband didn’t understand or support my dream of coaching. The change left our relationship feeling unmoored, and at times it felt like a tide that would overwhelm us. To stay afloat, we’ve had to improve our communication (particularly regarding our financial concerns and goals), resuscitate our friendship and trust, and be intentional about meeting each other’s needs and creating space for affection, passion, and intimacy.”